Mother as we all know is the greatest blessing of God in everyone’s life. The love and sacrifice a mother holds in her heart for her child is immeasurable and undoubtedly the maximum. A mother remains a mother for her child even if the child has now become an adult. Without a mother the existence of this world is impossible and unimaginable.

Mother is the first best friend or BFF as the children now say in a child’s life. It is really hard to find a true best friend like her who supports us in every difficult situation and the good deeds we do but also helps us to take the right path in life. Mother can be defined as the source of joy and happiness in a person’s life. She is the one who from the birth of the child to his old age stands beside him in every phase of life.

There’s a saying that God cannot be everywhere so he created Mother. It is actually true as she is like a goddess in everyone’s life caring and nurturing without any set terms and conditions. She is the one who brought us into this world and is trying to protect us from any evil eye. We hear people saying that internal beauty is more impressive than outside beauty, a mother is the perfect example of this as she has the most loving heart with the face of an angel. For a child his or her mother is the most beautiful person in this whole world. A mother’s bravery can be compared to a warrior as she will fight to any extent against any odds for the safety and well-being of her child. STATUS OF MOTHERS IN ISLAM: As we know that, Islam has empowered woman more than any other religion and they have more rights than any man.

A woman has a very key and important role when she becomes a mother. Since the mothers have a very valued and dignified role in Islam. Their contribution is acknowledged and applauded. Once a man asked Prophet (PBUH) about the status of mother, Muhammad (SAW) replied, “Paradise lies beneath the feet of mothers.” A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet (PBUH) said: ‘Your mother.’ The man said, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: ‘then your mother.’ The man further asked, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet repeated: ‘then your mother.’ The man asked again, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: ‘then your father.’

A mother has a great respect in her entire family. She is to be obeyed. There are many verses of the Holy Quran which talks about the rights of the mother. However, the Holy Prophet (PBUH) has enjoined goodness to the mother. A man came for the advice to Prophet (SAW) as to who should be treated well. The Prophet (PBUH) advised him to be good with mother. Three times the man asked, and three times Prophet (PBUH) told him to do good to his mother. At the fourth time, the Prophet (PBUH) told him to do good to his father. This illustrates the position of the mother in Islam.

Allah’s messenger (SAW) says, “It is one of the greatest sins that a man curse his parents.” Following are the verses of the Holy Quran about the parents (mother). Treat your parents with great kindness; if either or both of them attain old age, do not even say ‘uff’ to them; nor rebuke them; but speak to them kind words.

Treat them with humility and tenderness and pray, “O our Lord, be merciful to them, just as they brought me up with kindness and affection in my childhood.” (Surah Bani Israel 23-24). Allah has only discussed about the two mothers in the Holy Quran by name; Bibi Maryam, mother of Hazrat Isa (A.S) and mother of Prophet Musa (A.S). Holy Quran mentions the incident of Hazrat Maryam (AS) after the birth of Isa (A.S) when people started labeling her with the bad words. At a point, she wished to be dead. But Allah consoled her and told her not to grieve. Then she was given the dates and water. However, she was also ordered to take fast of not speaking for the three consecutive days. After three days, baby started speaking and it proved that Hazrat Isa (A.S) was a miraculous baby.(19:23-26) The other incident is related to Hazrat Musa’s mother who was forced to put her child in the river but was simultaneously assured that the baby will be returned. Allah knew the love of mother for the child. The baby was picked up by Firwan’s wife from river, but baby refused to suck the milk of foster mother. So Hazrat Musa’s sister suggested to try her mother, this united the child and mother back. (Surah Taha 37-40 and Surah Qasas 7-13) As we all know that Islam has given tremendous importance to the mothers, it is because Mothers are highly responsible women. They certainly play a very important role in the upbringing of a child.

Most noteworthy, Mothers play a huge role in determining a child’s attitude. Whether a child will be good or evil in the future depends upon the Mother. The moral values taught by Mother probably play a huge role. Individuals often remember their Mother’s values until old age. Hence, the Mother is responsible for the well-being of society. The future of society in a large way is the result of a Mother’s teaching.

The love of the mother towards the child is unmatchable. Whether the child is obedient or troublemaker, old or young, healthy or ill, the love remains the same for her child. A mother shows her love in different forms, sometimes she also scolds her child just because she cares and doesn’t want the child to be involved in any chaotic activity. However, that is why the children feel good at home because of their mother. Holy Quran says, “Worship God and join not any partners with Him; and be kind to your parents.”

In other words, we must not treat our parents harshly even if they beat or scold us. Sacrifices of the mother for the child are unmatchable in the world; she gives up her sleep as well just to make her child all right. A good mother places the needs of the child, both physical and emotional needs. There is no other relation other than mother who gives away all her peace just to make her child in peace. This is the reason why Islam has ordered woman to stay home, to look after their children but nowadays usually women are busy in making their own career instead of looking after their child which should be her first priority.

A mother always tries to safeguard her child in every difficulty. However, few mothers are over-protective for their child which is not good. Because of it, children face too many problems in their practical life when they have to deal it alone. Pampered children are unaware of many realities of the world. Many children get fed up of their parent over-protection, yet they must not misbehave since Allah’s messenger (SAW) says, “Shall I inform you of the biggest of the Great Sins?” They said, “Yes, O Allah’s Messenger (saws)!” He (saws) said, “To join partners in worship with Allah,and to be undutiful to one’s parents.” (Sahih Al-Bukhari) Most noteworthy, a Mother’s heart is made of gold. A few words of acknowledgment would fill her heart with happiness. There are probably several ways of doing so. One way is to praise the meal cooked by her. Above all, such acknowledgment should come on a regular basis. A Mother is a gem in everyone’s life. She is the ultimate source of happiness for a child. Her contributions are certainly too great to imagine.

Above all, her love is pure and innocent. I tried to explain about how much Islam respects the relation of a mother and what are role of the mothers in upbringing of the child. The mothers have the capability to either give a better future to the child or to damage it. So if we sum up the whole topic we understand, the mothers are the guardian of the whole family at home. However, it is utmost duty of every child to respect their mothers. Since it is the hadith of Allah’s messenger (SAW), “Be kind with your mother.” Therefore, a person will not enter a paradise if he/she scorns the parents (mother).

Published in The Daily National Courier, October, 22 2022

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